Befriending Dragons

Transform Tech with Anti-bullying Cultures

Two dragons in front of flowers

Let’s Befriend Dragons Together

Cindy Gross [she/her], CEO of Befriending Dragons


Nurture more equitable anti-bullying cultures via coaching partnerships with leaders on their own personal culture change journeys to retain a more diverse workforce.

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Bullied Techies

We coach tech workers to thrive again after you face bullies, including harassers, or racial, gender, or other bias. It’s not a little thing, it’s a big impact on our lives. You can stop thinking of yourself as a scary, scarred, beaten down dragon. You can reclaim your roar and end your internal screaming. We choose to be free agents in the world, friendly dragons who fly where we want, when we want, how we want. We heal and we thrive.

Tech Leaders

We partner with tech leaders to align your values, motivations, and goals with your communities, reconnect via healthier relationships, and reframe and re-envision your organization cultures from an anti-bullying foundation. We coach you so you can get the most out of your partnerships with your HR and Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion (DEI) teams.

Culture Change Partnerships

We share our knowledge and skills with your Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion (DEI) groups, Employee Resource Groups (ERGs), HR organizations, and internal executive, leadership, and career coaches. Cindy’s 25+ years as a techie make her uniquely qualified to bring culture changes to technology organizations.

Generative Coach

Cindy Gross is a Generative Coach working towards International Coaching Federation (ICF) certification with InviteChange. Cindy leads with empathy and an intersectional social equity perspective. Schedule a 30 minute Zoom call with me to discuss how we can work together.

My Story

I’ve met many scary dragons in my life – breast cancer, divorce, a layoff, changing roles and technologies, workplace harassment as a Microsoft woman in tech, fighting for LGBTQ+ and abortion rights in Idaho, constant striving to meet some impossible to meet bar for success, and the idea that we always have to put work first. Most recently I left the corporate world to strike out on my own, into a rich community filled with people like me who create justice, meaning, allies, and dreams. Each time I step back and look at the situation from different angles to get through it. I befriend each dragon, learn how to make it a part of my past and take only the parts I want forward to the next stage of my life. That’s what befriending dragons is all about – take those scary things and blend the best parts into our lives. Then we can respond in the way we each need, the way that takes us down the path we want.

Hear more of my stories here.

Contact Me

Cindy Gross She/Her/They


2 thoughts on “Let’s Befriend Dragons Together

  1. Many thanks & much gratitude for your energy today! I participated in your Zoom webinar through the Riviter… I can’t wait to connect with you & your material more! I’m always feeling like I’m between a rock & a hard place with ALL OF THESE CONCEPTS … I just had a conversation which I was agreeing with the person of color & asking for her input & Guidance & she was not only evasive but she pulled a fragility card on me & not only left the conversation but erased the conversation & I would have loved for you to have been able to Decipher it because I’m always trying & never succeeding in being an ally.

  2. Cindy-
    What a pleasure to read your site and get to know the incredible woman you are. I’ve been the wife of a tech genius and worked in corporate America in various support positions and your experiences are real and shared. I loved living in New Hampshire where I wasn’t afraid to talk politics or anything else. I find Texas (with the exception of Austin) a place I’m afraid to use my voice. I really enjoyed the interview Katrina linked me to and checking out your website since I don’t social network.
    Please visit if you’re nearby. I am your Aunt Marilyn.

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